Posted in Huh?!, tagged Baby Loss, butterflies, butterfly, ectopic and molar pregnancies, infant death, infant loss, miscarriage, pregnancy loss, SIDS, stillbirth, Stillborn on February 3, 2010 |
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If bereaved parents who have suffered a pregnancy or infant loss were to rename the title, what would it be? The new title would have to respect all religions and cultural beliefs.
The term “pregnancy and infant loss” has been the universal words spoken if a woman had a miscarriage, ectopic or molar pregnancy, stillbirth or a baby who died of SIDS (and others).
Are the babies lost or do we know where they are?
The same goes with adults. Most people would say, “loss of loved one.” I have not ran across people who are offended by these terms after a family member has died. So why are bereaved parents annoyed at these words.
As I am a bereaved mother and there is much to be annoyed at, but not those words. I know in my heart I will see all the deceased babies again. They are not lost, we are.
If we could change these terms, I suppose my vote would be, ” pregnancy and infant butterflies.” We all know about the amazing transformation of the caterpillar and all the wonderful poems related to the, “change.”
Does this term need to be changed?
Peace Love and Hugs from Above
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Posted in Huh?!, Just a Cloud Away Remembrance Kit, Our Heavenly Angels, Scrapbooking for Bereaved Families, tagged heaven, Just a Cloud Away Remembrance Kit, memorial scrapbooks, miscarriage, october 15, pregnancy and infant loss, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness, remembrance scrapbooking, scrapbook grief, scrapbook stores, Scrapbooking, Scrapbooking for Bereaved Families, scrapbooking loss on September 26, 2008 |
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A friend of mine called a local scrapbook store asking to carry Just a Cloud Away Remembrance Kits on consignment, meaning, I would leave the kits in the store and only be paid when they were sold. He said no, I don’t want anything depressing in my store. Shit no, did he just say what I think he just said. I can tell you this, he is incredibly lucky that I was not the one making the call. So I will ponder what could have prompted such a dumb ass remark.
This scrapbook store owner:
- must not carry memorial scrapbook products of any kind, they are just too sad
- has not experienced baby loss himself because of his gender
- has had no family member or friend experience miscarriage, stillbirth or any pregnancy loss (one out of four pregnancies ends in miscarriage and it is possible no one shared their loss with him because of his warm nature)
- does not believe in Heaven and reuniting with our loved ones passed
- no sense of hope or faith
- is unaware of National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, with October 15th the actual day
- probably feels sending flowers as a sympathy gift is safe and avoids the issue and does not condone expressing ones grief and memorializing a life is of any importance
So I may have taken his response somewhat personal and he may have a very good reason for not wanting to carry remembrance kits for babies.
2 local scrapbook stores kindly carrying Just a Cloud Away Remembrance Kits for pregnancy and infant loss are:
I cannot take these responses to heart, which is a difficult task for me. I take great offense to individuals or companies who have an opportunity to carry a product specifically for baby loss, who currently have none available for bereaved families.
We all have unique passions after our angels pass and this is one of mine. Sometimes I feel that it is us against them. It is not healthy and I would love for our grief not to be silent anymore.
Peace Love and Hugs from Above www.justacloudaway.com
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