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The stats helper monkeys at WordPress.com mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

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The Louvre Museum has 8.5 million visitors per year. This blog was viewed about 100,000 times in 2010. If it were an exhibit at The Louvre Museum, it would take 4 days for that many people to see it.

In 2010, there were 4 new posts, growing the total archive of this blog to 120 posts. There were 2 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 116kb.

The busiest day of the year was October 7th with 495 views. The most popular post that day was The Birth of My Stillborn Baby-Part 10.

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were justacloudaway.com, search.aol.com, en.wordpress.com, blogcatalog.com, and search.conduit.com.

Some visitors came searching, mostly for stillborn babies, stillborn, helleborus, stillborn baby, and angels.

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.

1

The Birth of My Stillborn Baby-Part 10 July 2008
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2

Angel Gifts Comfort Grieving Parents of Baby Loss March 2008
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3

Writing Poems for a Friend’s Baby that has Died March 2008
9 comments

4

Planting Helleborus in Gardens Remembering Babies February 2008
1 comment

5

Music, Memories & The Death of a Baby March 2008
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When my baby Tanner passed September 28, 2003, sympathy flowers were delivered almost every day for a month. Scruggs Florist in Greensboro, North Carolina delivered the most because they were located less than a mile away from our house. 5 1/2 years later I am helping the florist create an appropriate sympathy basket for bereaved parents of baby and pregnancy loss.

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The grief from pregnancy and infant loss is an overwheming sadness where parents often suffer in silence. If this type of loss hasn’t happen to you, it is difficult to understand. Acknowledgment of a much wanted baby is one step towards supporting bereaved parents.

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Scruggs Florist now carries a sympathy basket for the death of a baby and for angelversaries. The sympathy gift includes:

1 Indoor Plant
1 Azalea Plant
1 Basket
1 Just a Cloud Away Remembrance Kit
1 Plant Care Sheet
1 Zodiac Sheet
1 Memory Garden Tip Sheet
1 Scrapbook Tip Sheet
1 Pamphlet-Ways to Comfort Bereaved Parents
1 Pamphlet-What not to say to Bereaved Parents

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1 out of 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage and 26,000 stillbirths occur every year in the United States. If you know of a bereaved couple who has suffered the loss of their angel, you may want to think about sending a sympathy gift for the angelversary or death date. There are not too many loving parents that ignore this special and tragic date.

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There are many supportive gifts included in the Scruggs Florist sympathy basket for grieving parents. There are also ideas for those supporting and comforting them.

Remembering all baby angels….

Peace Love and Hugs from Above

Diana http://www.justacloudaway.com

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A friend of mine called a local scrapbook store asking to carry Just a Cloud Away Remembrance Kits on consignment, meaning, I would leave the kits in the store and only be paid when they were sold. He said no, I don’t want anything depressing in my store. Shit no, did he just say what I think he just said. I can tell you this, he is incredibly lucky that I was not the one making the call. So I will ponder what could have prompted such a dumb ass remark.

This scrapbook store owner:

  • must not carry memorial scrapbook products of any kind, they are just too sad
  • has not experienced baby loss himself because of his gender
  • has had no family member or friend experience miscarriage, stillbirth or any pregnancy loss (one out of four pregnancies ends in miscarriage and it is possible no one shared their loss with him because of his warm nature)
  • does not believe in Heaven and reuniting with our loved ones passed
  • no sense of hope or faith
  • is unaware of National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, with October 15th the actual day
  • probably feels sending flowers as a sympathy gift is safe and avoids the issue and does not condone expressing ones grief and memorializing a life is of any importance

So I may have taken his response somewhat personal and he may have a very good reason for not wanting to carry remembrance kits for babies.

2 local scrapbook stores kindly carrying Just a Cloud Away Remembrance Kits for pregnancy and infant loss are:

I cannot take these responses to heart, which is a difficult task for me. I take great offense to individuals or companies who have an opportunity to carry a product specifically for baby loss, who currently have none available for bereaved families.

We all have unique passions after our angels pass and this is one of mine. Sometimes I feel that it is us against them. It is not healthy and I would love for our grief not to be silent anymore.

 

Peace Love and Hugs from Above  www.justacloudaway.com

Diana

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shadowbox-2-w.jpgWhen your child becomes an angel, gifts of sympathy, keepsakes, Love Memorials™, and mementos are given to comfort bereaved families of pregnancy and infant loss. Shadowboxes can easily be constructed to place all of your deceased child’s special and unique keepsakes.

I never wanted to put anything away after the stillbirth of our son Tanner. He has changed my life beyond words and the thought of his keepsakes and special mementos not being displayed was not an option. His beautiful shadowbox hangs in our family room for all to see, designed by me and built by my husband.

My husband is my handyman and I have the creative brain that never takes a break. The style of our family room is more relaxed and casual where Tanner’s box is displayed. It is the shabby chic ambiance, in other words, placing affordable findings using the principals and elements of good design.

Some fathers of pregnancy and infant loss may find comfort in building a special box for their angels. Grieving between men and woman are so different and participation in one activity honoring a deceased child could give a platform for open communication. Your baby’s box will have a piece of mommy and daddy in its creation.

The materials used were; a window, odd lumber, screws, new hinges, malted milkshake paint and bead-board. We found these treasures on the curbside or in my husband’s uncle’s barn. The tools used were; a level, tape measure, paint brush, skill saw, power drill and open fire. Yes, an open fire was used to burn the hinges. Being new, they were a bit on the shiny side and did not have the desired patina. We threw them into the fire to singe and they turned out nicely.

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This shadowbox is a very sacred piece of art. It contains, one of a kind memorials, his small amount of ashes, the clothes he wore (with a little blood stain) and all of the things only for my little baby Tanner.

The grief of losing Tanner was also the energy provided to create many memorials for him, including a memory garden.

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Part of our healing journey was to “do” things honoring him. If you do not feel this is an activity to be accomplished with ease, ask a friend or family member to help design and construct the shadowbox. Maybe mommy and daddy could shop for just the right color paint for your baby’s box. Other suggestions are embellishments to adhere to the exterior of the box like flat wood cutouts available at craft stores. Stars, fish, moons, rattles, flowers, letters and many others can be painted and attached to the outside of the shadowbox to personalize for your baby. Here is a shadowbox smaller in size.

If your baby died early in pregnancy as miscarriage, ectopic or molar pregnancy or other tragic losses you can still provide a place for their things. Please visit other articles to help you, “Sky Journals” and “Zodiac Signs for Pregnancy Loss“.

Peace Love and Hugs from Above  www.justacloudaway.com

Diana

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t-garden.jpgMy husband and I had completely different styles of grieving after the stillbirth of our angel Tanner. You don’t ask your spouse before you make your way to the altar “How will you grieve if one of our children dies?” “Will you respect the way I choose to honor our children after they pass on?”

For some reason I expected my husband to grieve exactly the way I did, even though our personalities are completely opposite.

He would come home from work and I would ask, “Did you talk about Tanner to anyone today?” “Did you mention Tanner’s name today?” “Did anyone ask about Tanner today?”

I breathed, ate and slept Tanner for several months after he  died. There would be no “Silent Grief” here. I am a virgo which makes me a perfectionist, with all of my days organized and planned out. I just couldn’t do that anymore. I did not know what would happen next.

I read books on pregnancy and infant loss, books on heaven, and books of religious nature. I drew pencil sketches of living and deceased babies, I wrote poetry, I created a memory garden, I attended bible studies and workshops, I fought with my husband, I fought with family who didn’t say or do what I thought was appropriate. I freaked out, I drank red wine, I cried, I was lonely, I felt helpless, I felt useless, and I wanted to see Tanner.

It was only when Tanner died that I could finally grieve the 2 children lost years ago, tripling my sadness.

My husband, who I so deeply love could not help me. I did not know that then. I needed to reconnect with the church and God. It was only through this epiphany that I could allow my husband to love Tanner in his own way. It is OK because we both love him and our love is manifested through different mediums. I didn’t realize that his way included using a leveling tool to construct the benches in Tanner’s Memory Garden so they were just perfect. I on the other hand wanted them completed quickly.

I hope we can all find peace after the death of our children. I read this quote somewhere and thought it was so true, “The landscape of our life has changed, but it can still be a beautiful painting.”

If you would like to tell the story of your precious angels on this site, please do so on the Just a Cloud Away guestbook. Babies all have a story that started long before the 2 pink lines were visible. Your entry will remain anonymous if you choose. If you would like to memorialize your babies story on scrapbook pages, view http://justacloudaway.com/kits/index.html. My family heritage or family tree includes my babies in heaven. They will always be a part of our legacy here on earth.

Babies that died from SIDS, stillbirth, miscarriage, aborted babies and other pregnancy losses all have a story and they all have kissed our hearts in a special way. Allowing your spouse to express their grief in their own style is important for the healing journey. Communication was a very crucial component for us to survive as a loving married couple.

Peace Love and Hugs from Above  www.justacloudaway.com

Diana

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You can listen to this interview that I was delighted to give with Dr Gloria and Dr Heidi by clicking on the “Healing the Grieving Heart” under the Grief Support Catagory.

It wasn’t the easiest interview, but I would never turn down a chance to talk about my heavenly babies, scrapbooking, memory gardens or speading pregnancy and infant loss awareness.

Peace Love and Hugs from Above  www.justacloudaway.com

Diana

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Sympathy Card “Love Memorials™” are very personalized sympathy gifts given to comfort bereaved families grieving the death of someone significant. This gift comes straight from the heart without the possibility of ever being repeated. A “Love Memorial™” can be sent immediately after the death, on death anniversaries, angelversaries, birthdays, approximate pregnancy due dates or holidays. There is no timeline for a gift honoring an adult or baby who is very much missed. 

At least three people are involved in the creation of a “Love Memorial™”; the person grieving, the deceased individual and you. There are no rules to compose a “Love Memorial™”, only the depth of thought for its conception. When you take the time to understand the relationship of the bereaved and loved one passed, a precious and unique keepsake can be composed. 

“Love Memorials™” can be a simple handmade card, poems, journal entries, or scrapbook pages. Other forms of “Love Memorials™” are virtual memorials, memory gardens http://justacloudaway.com/nav-sidebar-ideas/garden.html  or drawings. 

A handmade card is a wonderful and considerate way to send a heartfelt “Love Memorial™”. The card located above was created for a couple who lost their daughter Abby at 22 weeks gestation due to miscarriage. The photograph of a golden sunrise, the yellow butterfly and lemony cloud the angel is resting on, symbolizes the gemstone citrine. Abby’s approximate due date was December second, providing the information needed to help create a card reflecting the color of her gemstone. To find your baby’s zodiac sign, symbol and gemstone select the category “Scrapbooking for Bereaved Families” on this blog and scroll down. The flower and butterfly stickers and angel baby on the cloud are included in the Just a Cloud Away Remembrance Kit for pregnancy and infant loss, available here http://justacloudaway.com/kits/index.html 

If you have a talent for writing, compose a “Love Memorial™” in the form of a letter or poem. This type of gift would be highly treasured because of the amount of thought required for its creation. My girlfriend created a “Love Memorial™” for us after the stillbirth of our son Tanner. A poem called, “If he could tell you…” http://justacloudaway.com/nav-sidebar-personal/ifhecould.html. At my request, I had her also read the poem at our Memory Garden Dedication for Tanner. My girlfriend was also a new mother of a 3 month old when she composed this comforting poem that touched my heart. Her words also reflected a very real pain for her too. 

If you are creative and have either an organic or symmetrical style, try designing a “Love Memorial™” in the form of scrapbook pages. This “Love Memorial™” created from your perspective could comfort bereaved families while providing a memorial keepsake  reflecting  hope and love. My sister-in-law created a beautiful “Love Memorial™” for us honoring little Tanner, http://justacloudaway.com/nav-sidebar-ideas/basket.html. One could even create scrapbook pages from the perspective of the loved one that passed, reassuring the bereaved that they are doing just fine and love them deeply. 

Decoupage is another medium to use in creating “Love Memorials™”. Decoupage usually comes in a plastic container and has a consistency of glue. I created a “Love Memorial™” for myself. 2 years after my son was stillborn my dear uncle was diagnosed with cancer. He fought a tough battle until the end. Before he passed, with his eyes closed, holding my hand whispered, “I am going to teach Tanner how to fish”. I am crying even now while typing. This vision was created and memorialized http://justacloudaway.com/nav-sidebar-ideas/other.html on a decorative plate and charger plate to hang on my wall. 

Virtual memorials are another way to express your support for bereaved families. By working through the logistics and set up of an online memorial, unnecessary stress for bereaved family members are alleviated. These “Love Memorials™” allow you to write short stories, poems or anything else about the deceased or those grieving the loss. Memorials can be personalized by background colors, music, and significant photos, making this online tribute unique http://www.catholicmemorials.com/default.asp. 

Typical sympathy gifts usually involve you and the individual grieving the loss, such as a sympathy card. Sending such gifts would be fine if it is distressing or uncomfortable to send a “Love Memorial™”. After some time passes, ideas and thoughts may emanate helping to compose a “Love Memorial™” for your friend or family member. These types of sympathy gifts will be truly cherished because you haven taken time to think about their special relationship with the deceased and the undying love within their hearts.

Peace Love and Hugs from Above  www.justacloudaway.com

Diana

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I know how important it is for grieving families to find places on the internet that will allow them to write the name or even a story about their child that has passed. It is only by a loving parent’s perspective that one can begin to understand the depth of love that exists for a child gone too soon. Because that love transcends time the pain can also take a great deal of time to subside.

A guestbook will be available in the near future for you to sign and inform the world the story of your sweet little angels that are physically no longer with us. I personally feel a sense of accomplishment after writing about my babies in heaven. My living son will know his siblings and he will know how mommy feels about them.

Journaling keepsakes can also be created with Remembrance Kits for pregnancy, child and infant loss at http://justacloudaway.com/kits/index.html . Every baby began their stories with us and journaling may help keep the little details, feelings and specific dates in chronological order so that we may  reflect upon these moments in future days. It is amazing to look back at my journal entries seeing the incredible transformation from darkness to beautiful sunlight.

Peace Love and Hugs from Above

Diana

www.justacloudaway.com

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 I have researched online to find supportive elements for bereaved families of miscarriage and other early pregnancy losses to create memory gardens, scrapbooks and other keepsakes for little angels. Tangible items are very limited, however your memories are abundant. 

If you know when your baby would have been born, you can estimate an approximate due date and use this information for various memorials for your sweet children.

These bereaved parents of pregnancy and infant loss have used some of this information to create “Love Memorials” for their angels http://justacloudaway.com/nav-sidebar-ideas/gallery/index.html

Peace Love and Hugs from Above   www.justacloudaway.com

Diana 

  • Aries — “I am,” assertive, individualistic, enthusiasm, pioneering, leader, competitive, action-oriented, defensive, aggressive, intemperate, violent, fiery, powerful, extreme, arrogant, uncontrolled and unrestrained, quick, passionate, determined, fresh, head/skull
  • Taurus — “I have,” sensual, affectionate, possessive, cautious, acquisitive, musical, artistic, stubborn, solid, earthly, strong, patient, sturdy, slow, kind, just, throat/neck
  • Gemini — “I think,” “I know,” curious, multi-tasking, talkative, sociable, duality, mercurial, whimsical, intelligent, restless, quick, informed, hands/lungs
  • Cancer — “I feel,” sensitive, tenacious, family and home oriented, helpful, nurturing, moody, watery, protective, emotional, crabby, moody, loving, stomach/breasts
  • Leo — “I rule,” passionate, bossy, loves attention, dramatic, independent, noble, creative, leader, egotistic, sunny, bright, kingly, powerful, heart/back
  • Virgo — “I analyze,” practical, work and service oriented, critical, common sense, modest, intelligent, health conscious, fussy, helpful, loving, flexible, intestines/digestion
  • Libra — “We are,” partnerships, balance, grace, charm, debative, open-minded, cooperative, social, ideas, lazy, kidneys/lumbar
  • Scorpio — “I desire,” intense, controlling, sexual, confrontative, deep, skeptical, mysterious, obsessive, death, transformation, genitals/reproductive organs
  • Sagittarius — “I seek,” philosophic, fun-loving, arrogant, adventurous, expansive, optimistic, blundering, believer, scattered, hips/thighs
  • Capricorn — “I use,” ambitious, cautious, rigid, authoritative, cunning, competent, saturnine, inclined to politics/business, knees/skeleton
  • Aquarius — “I know,” friendships, humanitarian, cause-oriented, the group, society, progressive, eccentric, elitist, sophisticated, objective, nervous system/ankles
  • Pisces — “I believe,” feeling, duality, idealistic, spirituality, acceptance, undiscriminating, soul growth, martyrdom, artistic, neglectful, surrender, compassionate, feet/immune system

   

 

Month

Zodiac Sign

Symbol

Elements

Gemstone

         

Jan 20- Feb 18

Aquarius

Water

Air

January- Garnet

Feb 19- Mar 20

Pisces

Fish

Water

February- Amethyst

Mar 21- Ap 19

Aries

Ram

Fire

March- Aquamarine

Ap 20- May 20

Taurus

Bull

Earth

April- White Topaz

May 21- Ju 20

Gemini

Twins

Air

May- Emerald

Ju 21- July 22

Cancer

Crab

Water

June- Alexandrite

July 23- Aug 22

Leo

Lion

Fire

July- Ruby

Aug 23- Sep 22

Virgo

Virgin

Earth

August- Peridot

Sep 23- Oct 22

Libra

Scale

Air

September- Sapphire

Oct 23- Nov 21

Scorpio

Scorpion

Water

October- Opal

Nov 22- Dec 21

Sagittarius

Archer

Fire

November- Citrine

Dec 22- Jan 19

Capricorn

Sea Goat

Earth

December- Blue Topaz

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