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The stats helper monkeys at WordPress.com mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

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The Louvre Museum has 8.5 million visitors per year. This blog was viewed about 100,000 times in 2010. If it were an exhibit at The Louvre Museum, it would take 4 days for that many people to see it.

In 2010, there were 4 new posts, growing the total archive of this blog to 120 posts. There were 2 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 116kb.

The busiest day of the year was October 7th with 495 views. The most popular post that day was The Birth of My Stillborn Baby-Part 10.

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were justacloudaway.com, search.aol.com, en.wordpress.com, blogcatalog.com, and search.conduit.com.

Some visitors came searching, mostly for stillborn babies, stillborn, helleborus, stillborn baby, and angels.

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.

1

The Birth of My Stillborn Baby-Part 10 July 2008
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2

Angel Gifts Comfort Grieving Parents of Baby Loss March 2008
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3

Writing Poems for a Friend’s Baby that has Died March 2008
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4

Planting Helleborus in Gardens Remembering Babies February 2008
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5

Music, Memories & The Death of a Baby March 2008
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When my baby Tanner passed September 28, 2003, sympathy flowers were delivered almost every day for a month. Scruggs Florist in Greensboro, North Carolina delivered the most because they were located less than a mile away from our house. 5 1/2 years later I am helping the florist create an appropriate sympathy basket for bereaved parents of baby and pregnancy loss.

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The grief from pregnancy and infant loss is an overwheming sadness where parents often suffer in silence. If this type of loss hasn’t happen to you, it is difficult to understand. Acknowledgment of a much wanted baby is one step towards supporting bereaved parents.

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Scruggs Florist now carries a sympathy basket for the death of a baby and for angelversaries. The sympathy gift includes:

1 Indoor Plant
1 Azalea Plant
1 Basket
1 Just a Cloud Away Remembrance Kit
1 Plant Care Sheet
1 Zodiac Sheet
1 Memory Garden Tip Sheet
1 Scrapbook Tip Sheet
1 Pamphlet-Ways to Comfort Bereaved Parents
1 Pamphlet-What not to say to Bereaved Parents

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1 out of 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage and 26,000 stillbirths occur every year in the United States. If you know of a bereaved couple who has suffered the loss of their angel, you may want to think about sending a sympathy gift for the angelversary or death date. There are not too many loving parents that ignore this special and tragic date.

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There are many supportive gifts included in the Scruggs Florist sympathy basket for grieving parents. There are also ideas for those supporting and comforting them.

Remembering all baby angels….

Peace Love and Hugs from Above

Diana http://www.justacloudaway.com

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A friend of mine called a local scrapbook store asking to carry Just a Cloud Away Remembrance Kits on consignment, meaning, I would leave the kits in the store and only be paid when they were sold. He said no, I don’t want anything depressing in my store. Shit no, did he just say what I think he just said. I can tell you this, he is incredibly lucky that I was not the one making the call. So I will ponder what could have prompted such a dumb ass remark.

This scrapbook store owner:

  • must not carry memorial scrapbook products of any kind, they are just too sad
  • has not experienced baby loss himself because of his gender
  • has had no family member or friend experience miscarriage, stillbirth or any pregnancy loss (one out of four pregnancies ends in miscarriage and it is possible no one shared their loss with him because of his warm nature)
  • does not believe in Heaven and reuniting with our loved ones passed
  • no sense of hope or faith
  • is unaware of National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, with October 15th the actual day
  • probably feels sending flowers as a sympathy gift is safe and avoids the issue and does not condone expressing ones grief and memorializing a life is of any importance

So I may have taken his response somewhat personal and he may have a very good reason for not wanting to carry remembrance kits for babies.

2 local scrapbook stores kindly carrying Just a Cloud Away Remembrance Kits for pregnancy and infant loss are:

I cannot take these responses to heart, which is a difficult task for me. I take great offense to individuals or companies who have an opportunity to carry a product specifically for baby loss, who currently have none available for bereaved families.

We all have unique passions after our angels pass and this is one of mine. Sometimes I feel that it is us against them. It is not healthy and I would love for our grief not to be silent anymore.

 

Peace Love and Hugs from Above  www.justacloudaway.com

Diana

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shadowbox-2-w.jpgWhen your child becomes an angel, gifts of sympathy, keepsakes, Love Memorials™, and mementos are given to comfort bereaved families of pregnancy and infant loss. Shadowboxes can easily be constructed to place all of your deceased child’s special and unique keepsakes.

I never wanted to put anything away after the stillbirth of our son Tanner. He has changed my life beyond words and the thought of his keepsakes and special mementos not being displayed was not an option. His beautiful shadowbox hangs in our family room for all to see, designed by me and built by my husband.

My husband is my handyman and I have the creative brain that never takes a break. The style of our family room is more relaxed and casual where Tanner’s box is displayed. It is the shabby chic ambiance, in other words, placing affordable findings using the principals and elements of good design.

Some fathers of pregnancy and infant loss may find comfort in building a special box for their angels. Grieving between men and woman are so different and participation in one activity honoring a deceased child could give a platform for open communication. Your baby’s box will have a piece of mommy and daddy in its creation.

The materials used were; a window, odd lumber, screws, new hinges, malted milkshake paint and bead-board. We found these treasures on the curbside or in my husband’s uncle’s barn. The tools used were; a level, tape measure, paint brush, skill saw, power drill and open fire. Yes, an open fire was used to burn the hinges. Being new, they were a bit on the shiny side and did not have the desired patina. We threw them into the fire to singe and they turned out nicely.

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This shadowbox is a very sacred piece of art. It contains, one of a kind memorials, his small amount of ashes, the clothes he wore (with a little blood stain) and all of the things only for my little baby Tanner.

The grief of losing Tanner was also the energy provided to create many memorials for him, including a memory garden.

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Part of our healing journey was to “do” things honoring him. If you do not feel this is an activity to be accomplished with ease, ask a friend or family member to help design and construct the shadowbox. Maybe mommy and daddy could shop for just the right color paint for your baby’s box. Other suggestions are embellishments to adhere to the exterior of the box like flat wood cutouts available at craft stores. Stars, fish, moons, rattles, flowers, letters and many others can be painted and attached to the outside of the shadowbox to personalize for your baby. Here is a shadowbox smaller in size.

If your baby died early in pregnancy as miscarriage, ectopic or molar pregnancy or other tragic losses you can still provide a place for their things. Please visit other articles to help you, “Sky Journals” and “Zodiac Signs for Pregnancy Loss“.

Peace Love and Hugs from Above  www.justacloudaway.com

Diana

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t-garden.jpgMy husband and I had completely different styles of grieving after the stillbirth of our angel Tanner. You don’t ask your spouse before you make your way to the altar “How will you grieve if one of our children dies?” “Will you respect the way I choose to honor our children after they pass on?”

For some reason I expected my husband to grieve exactly the way I did, even though our personalities are completely opposite.

He would come home from work and I would ask, “Did you talk about Tanner to anyone today?” “Did you mention Tanner’s name today?” “Did anyone ask about Tanner today?”

I breathed, ate and slept Tanner for several months after he  died. There would be no “Silent Grief” here. I am a virgo which makes me a perfectionist, with all of my days organized and planned out. I just couldn’t do that anymore. I did not know what would happen next.

I read books on pregnancy and infant loss, books on heaven, and books of religious nature. I drew pencil sketches of living and deceased babies, I wrote poetry, I created a memory garden, I attended bible studies and workshops, I fought with my husband, I fought with family who didn’t say or do what I thought was appropriate. I freaked out, I drank red wine, I cried, I was lonely, I felt helpless, I felt useless, and I wanted to see Tanner.

It was only when Tanner died that I could finally grieve the 2 children lost years ago, tripling my sadness.

My husband, who I so deeply love could not help me. I did not know that then. I needed to reconnect with the church and God. It was only through this epiphany that I could allow my husband to love Tanner in his own way. It is OK because we both love him and our love is manifested through different mediums. I didn’t realize that his way included using a leveling tool to construct the benches in Tanner’s Memory Garden so they were just perfect. I on the other hand wanted them completed quickly.

I hope we can all find peace after the death of our children. I read this quote somewhere and thought it was so true, “The landscape of our life has changed, but it can still be a beautiful painting.”

If you would like to tell the story of your precious angels on this site, please do so on the Just a Cloud Away guestbook. Babies all have a story that started long before the 2 pink lines were visible. Your entry will remain anonymous if you choose. If you would like to memorialize your babies story on scrapbook pages, view http://justacloudaway.com/kits/index.html. My family heritage or family tree includes my babies in heaven. They will always be a part of our legacy here on earth.

Babies that died from SIDS, stillbirth, miscarriage, aborted babies and other pregnancy losses all have a story and they all have kissed our hearts in a special way. Allowing your spouse to express their grief in their own style is important for the healing journey. Communication was a very crucial component for us to survive as a loving married couple.

Peace Love and Hugs from Above  www.justacloudaway.com

Diana

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You can listen to this interview that I was delighted to give with Dr Gloria and Dr Heidi by clicking on the “Healing the Grieving Heart” under the Grief Support Catagory.

It wasn’t the easiest interview, but I would never turn down a chance to talk about my heavenly babies, scrapbooking, memory gardens or speading pregnancy and infant loss awareness.

Peace Love and Hugs from Above  www.justacloudaway.com

Diana

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