My brother and sister-in-law were nothing but supportive after the death of my son. They did not think twice about flying to North Carolina from Buffalo for Tanner’s memorial service to comfort us. Still today, almost 5 years later they remember our baby in heaven with a special activity, a butterfly release.
My nephews purchased a butterfly kit to raise and release them. They were going to be visiting us at the exact time the butterflies were recommended to be set free. Ryan, my eldest nephew brought the butterfly kit into our house and said we should release them into Tanner’s memory garden. I did not ask if this was his idea or his parents because Ryan seemed very determined and willing to let the butterflies explore Tanner’s memory garden. I was incredibly moved by Ryan’s kindness and he probably didn’t know the effect he had on me. A nine year old now but just a small 4 year old when Tanner died, yet we always visit the memory garden when he comes and it is always referred to as “Tanner’s Garden.”
The butterflies needed a little help finding their way out.
and there they go………………
It was so sweet to see the expression of the boys.
If your sweet angel passed away during a time when butterfly kits can be purchased, I highly recommend it. Sometimes it is difficult to include other children in rituals for deceased babies, but this activity can involve everyone. An angelversary can be a special time to remember your angel baby and to release beautiful butterflies free to fly. This could be a new tradition if the butterfly symbolizes your deceased baby.
If your child’s angelversary tradition is a butterfly release, we would love to know.
Peace Love and Hugs from Above www.justacloudaway.com
Diana
Diane, I am so sorry for the loss of your babies. I lost my son Chris, 5 years ago… and held a butterfly release ceremony this year, to help all remember him, never forget him, and to honor his new freedom: http://christopher-miele.last-memories.com/
The pictures of your nephews are just precious! Bless your family for doing this with you and remembering Tanner.
Light & Peace
Cherri,
Chris’s Mom
Cherri,
Thank you so much for sharing Chris’s butterfly release. Your son is in my thoughts.
This is a true testimony that angelversaries are acknowledged at any age our children pass away.
Peace Love and Hugs from Above
Diana
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