A poem may seem like something you could not possibly accomplish for your bereaved friend, but you can. Poems can come straight from your heart embracing all the love you and your friend has for her baby so sadly missed.
I wrote a very simple poem just days after the stillbirth of my son,”Proud Father and Stillborn Son Share Birthday’s“. This poem consists of short words or phrases lined down the page capturing the feelings I had at that time.
My girlfriend wrote a poem or short story about our stillborn son, Tanner. Receiving this ”Love Memorial™” from her absolutely touched me beyond words. She loves him too. “If He Could Tell You…”.
Journaling is such a healing activity. It provides an outlet to express your emotions that sometimes are difficult to say in words. If you wrote in your journal about the loss of your friend’s baby, go back and read it again. Now read an entry about your bereaved friend weeks, days or months later. Did the two of you have coffee at your favorite restaurant? Did you take a walk in the park? Did you provide her a shoulder to lean on? Did you think about what your friend’s baby is doing in heaven? Was there a song or soothing music cd you purchased for her? Now think about how your relationship with your girlfriend has changed for the better. Maybe it’s the closeness you feel towards her and the loss of her child.
These are all things to embrace when you are composing a poem for your grieving friend. Don’t think this is an overwhelming task. Gather all the information about the deceased infant and your friend before beginning your poem. Start by selecting the important words describing your feelings for her baby, her wonderful and nurturing characteristic and how her baby may have touched your heart if the child was here. This heartfelt poem will be a “Love Memorial™” treasured for life.
To help you even further, you may want to view, “The Season Your Baby Died and Became an Angel“, “Photographs Remembering Angels-Sky Journals“, and “Zodiac Signs for Miscarried Babies“.
Your beautiful words can be added to the child’s scrapbooks or shadowboxes as a tribute to your friend and her beloved angel baby.
A poem of hope to my baby Tanner
While we were dreaming of your baby ways
God was planning your heavenly days
While we wept when we were alone
God rejoiced because you were home
Loving you always my little Tanner Nanner
Love Mommy
Peace Love and Hugs from Above www.justacloudaway.com
Diana
This is a great thing you are doing. My baby was born last September and only lived for 2 weeks. I learned so much from him all though his life on earth was short lived. I will always feel his presence around me. To all mother’s who have had a child pass away, just know they are not lost, we know where they are and one day we will be reunited with them.
tho much is taken, much abides Tennyson
so sorry for your loss hard to know how those without
faith cope .. good to know you will one day be reunited.
Blessings
Hi there, i gave birth to a son on June 11, 2009, my first child, and he was born stillborn…i am 27 years old, i am having a difficult time with this, my family and friends have been doing there best, it just seems like nothing helps
HI AMANDA,
I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR LOSS OF YOUR BABY BOY.
I ALSO JUST LOST MINE ON AUGUST 17 2009 HE WAS STILLBORN ALSO AT FULL TERM.
IF YOU EVER NEED TO TALK PLEASE EMAIL ME @
TWEETIE361@HOTMAIL.COM
I WILL KEEP YOU IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS
DIANA
amanda and diana,
i am so sorry for your loss! my first baby was a boy and he was stillborn july 21st 2005. as a mom to an angel i will tell you that it never gets any easier but you will learn to live with it! my sons bday is tomorrow and he would be trning 6. in that 6 years it is still hard for me to deal with it! i do what i feel is best for me in the way i feel i need to! the most important thing i can say is to never let anyone force you to deal with it their way! it might take you awhile to figure out the best way for you to deal with it but you will! if you ever need to chat you are welcome to email me at sassyslushy@hotmail.com
Amanda… I too lost my son on June 12th,2009. He was my only son (second child after 15 years) I feel your pain and Im with you. My family was trying to be there but it’s not the same. I shut people out like you would not believe. If you need someone to talk to my email is leslie_marquise2@verizon.net… My thoughts and prayers are with you always!!!
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This Poem Is For Yoou Kainyy bOY
well iknow we never got to met but one day we all will met agan i love you baaby boy mummy and tara misses yoou lost and wishs you was stilll here io only got to hold you once only once mummy got to hold you and so did tara we all wish u was still here u r gawjuss and even though u are not dwn here and u are up there beckky and naan and daddy will look after you and when we come up we will aswel
but mummy and tara loves you lotss and if we got the chanes to get you back i swear i wouild do anything for you kain WE MISS YOOU why did god have to take you why didnt he take some1 else and lefted you with us we would off loved you cared bwt you looked after you but no god though differernt yes i dont some bad things in my life and some good ones every1 makes mismakes i made some bad onces some huge one tht i will never forget i F**** my life upp sometimes but look i love you and we all misss youuu xxx chin upp yeah hope you lookin dwn on us darilin xxx
I’m really sorry to hear about your lose. You an your family are in my prayers I to lost my son he lived to be 5 days shy of 3months old and we woke up one morning and he was gone I know what your going through and I don’t believe anybody should have to feel the pain you feel an I to feel it’s tha worst thing that could ever happen to a parent if you ever need to talk or just get something out vent on someone that knows your pain you may email me at fefes3babies@live.com or that’s also my email for myspace if you have one add me as a friend again you and your family is in my prayers
I am very sorry for your loss.
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I know thats the hardest thing that anyone has to endure, just know that your child is in a better place. And if you think about it maybe Jesus Blessed you with a very special child, well we all know your baby was special. I mean that maybe Jesus had plans for your baby in Heaven. I just had a girlfriend loose her baby he was a preme but made it up intill his due date. The weird thing is the Hospital sent them home 2wks before his due date with no monitors or nothing, I guess his lungs weren’t fully developed but you’d think that the hospital would get in trouble for that. Well hunny I hope your doing ok I know I’m a complete stranger I just want you to know that things will get better you’ll never forget. Just remeber the good times that you did get to spend with your little angel. If you need anything just send me an email. See I had 3 miscarrages and I understand how hard it is 3 of my friends been through this same situation and it’s the hardest it just takes a strong person to cope with this kinda situation. Well I hope after all of this you still believe in God bc it says in the Bible once all our times come to an end we will all be reunited with our children that weve lost weather it was a miscarrage or abortion or something like this. So just have faith and i promise you that one day you will meet again. God Bless and take care.
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