There is a kind of metamorphose that takes place within our hearts after the loss of a child. It’s not the change in shape or color, but a change in strength.
I do not like when grief is measured and I am only offering an explanation of how grief is different for those who have lost their babies.
We as humans know we are going to die and go about our business until faced with death in our own families. An aunt, a mother or a close friend passes on and we are devastated. Our lives have come to a brief hault as reality sets in.
When a couple sees 2 pink lines of a much desired positive pregnancy test, every ounce of their being soars to the clouds with excitement. This euphoria is almost constant and they are not on the same level as everyone else. When the baby’s heartbeat suddenly stops, the parents have a very long way to fall. They are changed, their future will not include a living child, the family unit will not be what they envisioned since the positive pregnancy test.
A couple who have an angel may
tenderly help a lost child find her parents in a crowd
angrily scold a strange woman for dropping cigarette ashes on top of her granddaughters head
take a friends toddler for a walk in the park
guard their only living child with great caution
wear pink and blue ribbons, especially in October
highlight the first Tuesday of every month on their calendars for support meetings
attend a special Christmas event in December honoring angels
include a subtle symbol of an angel on every greeting card sent
gaze at little children with an exuberant amount of love in their eyes
become emotional at baptisms, christenings, funerals or school plays
Yes, there is a difference in the grief following pregnancy and infant loss. We just want you to know we will never forget them and will always love our children in heaven.
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Peace Love and Hugs from Above www.justacloudaway.com
Diana
